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Are you Stress-free or Stressed Out?

Is being stressed out stopping you from reaching your optimum wellness level?
It seems that negative stress is everywhere, and just about everyone you talk to nowadays seems to be stressed out about something. Whether people are talking about their careers, school, relationships, health, finances, or something else in their personal lives, stress is negatively affecting and infecting our daily lives. We all experience stress during the course of our lives, it is "normal", but being constantly stressed out on a regular basis is unhealthy, and for some people it's unbearable and traumatizing.

Why are so many people suffering from anxiety disorders, such as social anxiety disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), Anorexia Nervosa eating disorder, depression, panic attacks, aggression, hostility, and a long list of other disorders and dysfunctions. Is society expecting too much from us, or are we expecting too much of ourselves, and too much from each other? Is the increasing frequency of these disorders and dysfunctions new, orare the high stress levels caused by a combination of factors that mostly came about within the last 30 years? Stress is usually, or at least in part, at the root of most psychological disorders, and stress is also linked to almost every disease known to man, including heart disease and cancer.

Experiencing a large amount of negative stress for long periods of time can have negative emotional and physical ramifications that can affect you for a long time.

Some people can handle stress well, while others experience great difficulty handling stress, which often develops into other emotional and physical complications. Some individuals express feelings of being consistently attacked or bombarded by stressors. Whether its external stress or self-induced stress that we create or stir up internally, being constantly stressed out is unhealthy and will gradually take its toll on most people.

Generally, people will change, alter, or regress when confronted with harsh, shocking short-term stress or continuous stress.

Cumulative effects of dealing with stress include:

  • Chronic suppression of the immune system

  • Increased vulnerability to infection

  • Chronic over secretion of stress hormones

  • Compromised brain option, especially memory

  • A decrease in the ability to absorb information and learn new skills

  • Cumulative trauma disorders (CTDs) - injuries of the musculoskeletal system

  • Development of relationship and social issues

  • Repetitive strain injuries

  • A decrease in overall productivity

  • Increased vulnerability to physical conditions such as skin problems or illness

The truth is that experiencing a small amount of stress on a daily basis can actually be healthy for you. Stress can be defined as any positive or negative stimulation that moves us away from being in a calm emotional and physical state. A little excitement or stress before a test or presentation is normal, but it should not overwhelm you. Ideally, a small amount of stress that appears for a short period of time and disappears quickly, allowing you to return to a calm and peaceful state is generally manageable and encouraged most cases. Most people tend to recover quickly from this type of stressful situation and can easily continue with their daily lives without any scaring or side effects. In many cases, the person can even benefit from the stressful experience.

The problem occurs when you face situations where the demands outweigh your internal resources to successfully cope and the situation makes your ability to cope ineffective. Instead, the mind triggers and invokes the psychosomatic stress response coping mechanism called "fight or flight" syndrome which causes certain physical changes in the body to respond to the stimulus.

The entire body becomes alert and can display physical reactions such as:

  • Movement can come to a momentary halt

  • Heart rate accelerates

  • Blood pressure and flow increases

  • Adrenaline hormone level rapidly increases

  • Muscle tension increases

  • Pupils dilate

  • Respiration rate increases

  • Temperature rises

  • Blood flow is redirected towards the major organs

Whenever the mind signals the body that it's experiencing stress, the "fight or flight" syndrome is triggered, even if the physical reaction is unnecessary and inappropriate. This fight or flight stress response is intended to give a person a burst of energy so you can, like your ancestors before you, fight or run away from any physical threats to stay safe. With continuous stress, the fight or flight syndrome is constantly on, but at a level lower than 100%. The body and mind are not meant to sustain the impact from the fight or flight syndrome for longer than a few minutes at a time.

It is important to remember that we usually have several types of behavioral cycles and patterns active at any given time. A common scenario in dealing with embedded stress, but not always obvious, are the deep rooted negative feelings of frustration and resentment caused by past and present experiences with people and unpleasant situations.

This behavioral cycle of negative feelings continues to fester and percolate, consuming and expanding within until it needs to spew out periodically in an effort to release pressure. Similar to a volcano erupting. Now the behavioral pattern is out of control and continues both internally and externally, to negatively alter behavior, health, and situations. Ironically, the person is still sometimes unaware of the magnitude of the problem, or how to effectively manage and break the vicious behavioral cycle that they are in. The dysfunction simply becomes part of their personality and an integral part of their lifestyle, and they believe that it is simply a matter of bad luck that they can't do anything about.

Behavioral alterations due to experiencing stress or being stressed out can include being anxious, socially withdrawn, depressed, dependent on a substance, needy or developing a needy personality, angry, aggressive, argumentative, confrontational and violent.

Very often the person is aware that the problem exists, but yet puts the blame on everyone else or the situation. They refuse to accept or understand that they are the only one that can break this behavioral cycle and set themselves free.

Too often, we either cause the problem or make the stress worse by invoking a self-induced stress syndrome. Self-induced stress that we create or stir up, arouse or excite feelings and passions internally. Self-induced stress is often the end result of our own feelings of perfectionism, excessive rumination about cases, emotional depletion, an unhealthy lifestyle, self-doubt, physical exhaustion, and fear of failure.

This is often a difficult concept to accept. Mostly because the stress is due to other individuals and situations, and it's not something that you did to cause it. Even if that is true and you are blameless, you're the one who has been infected with negative stress, and you're the one who has to break free and remove the toxic virus from within.

Although we cannot totally eliminate external stressors, we should try to minimize or reduce them as much as possible. We can, and should, try to gain a better understanding of negative stress and develop effective coping strategies to handle it. Each individual differs in their responses, and the coping strategies that they use will often depend on their attitude, sense of personal mastery, or other personality traits. There are external and internal triggers that can induce negative stress, and there are also internal triggers that can be used to release and alleviate the negative emotional and physical residue caused by toxic stress.

Tips to help deal with stress you should:

  • Identify stressors that affect your daily life.

  • Eliminate the stressors from which we can to free ourselves.

  • Learn to deal with stressful situations in a healthy way.

  • Stop trying to control situations and people.

  • Learn affirmations and practice them daily over and over again.

  • Accept things, situations, and people for what they are, and as they are.

  • How you interpret and internalize stress will dictate how stress affects you.

  • Stress cannot affect you if you truly don't care - regardless of the situation.

  • Look at the reasons why you're stressed out and try to eliminate as much stress as possible from your life.

  • Stop trying to pass blame or get revenge, even if it's justified.

  • Live in the present and let go of the past.

  • Release it, and let it go.

  • Meditation and exercise techniques can help. This technique helps you to accept and let go of bad feelings and resentment from within.

  • Do physical exercise, practicing Qi Gong / Chi Kung, and meditation


Life is too short to be all stressed out.


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